What’s Your Body Count?

President’s Corner for June 2017

Dr. Freda M. Bush

“I’m thinking about having sex,” says the young man or woman. The thought may have been thought and acted upon with little time in between. Or the thought may have been meditated upon for months with external pressure from a friend or the media.

Recently, talking to a 15 y/o girl, I learned she was still a virgin. When I inquired why she was not sexually active, she said she has been approached by many male friends who first want to know her “body count.”  “Body count” meaning how many bodies she had sex with.  When she says zero, they want to know “What’s wrong with you?” She says she then asks them about their body count. The answer is usually in the “teens” however, she has had some in the 20’s and 30’s. She then asks them the same question, “What’s wrong with you?” She says she doesn’t want that much traffic going through her body or her mind. She wants to save sex for marriage, for that one person who will value her and the love she has to give. She also wants someone who will love and value her uniqueness. She doesn’t want someone who will be comparing her to multiple other girls.

Nevertheless, MI would like to be the “go-to” resource for information about the consequences of sex: The good, the bad, and the ugly. Especially for sexual initiation, MI would like to be the clear medically accurate resource on an easily understood level. What if? Why not?

MI has provided resources to teens via brochures, videos and a video series  on the internet titled “Guidance Needed!”  Sasha, the teen star, had a problem. Her boyfriend told her she couldn’t  get pregnant if she had sex in a swimming pool, so she had sex in a swimming pool. However, when she missed her cycle the anxiety was “on”.  Without advertising, the number of followers of the video began to double weekly with many writing in to give Sasha advice. Many more expressed their anxiety and told similar tales. The series then progressed to include relationship issues and issues with STI’s. MI was able to insert medically accurate information on STIs, pregnancy and relationships to make the series meaningful and educational. The series was well received and beneficial based on the responses, but was eventually “corrupted” by spam and had to be removed from the internet.

MI is still providing medically accurate resources to teens and their parents, other parenting adults, educators, social workers, counselors and adult youth workers who care about our youth and their futures. Among the many resources are the “Had The Talk?” monograph series for adults with information on how to talk to teens about sex and relationships; “Sex Is Not a Game” video for teens on STI’s and relationships. MI also  provides numerous brochures like, “Why Abstinence?”, “It’s OK to Say No,” “What If I Could Start Over?” and “The Condom”.

MI is here for you. We care about the future of all our children and young adults. Won’t you join with us to help young people make wise decisions about sexual behavior? At this point in time, MI is exclusively funded by private donations. Please consider investing in the sexual health of our young people by donating today.